I’m Coming Out!

Yes, it’s true. I’m coming out, but not as gay. Been there, done that, even got the t-shirt from San Francisco.

I’m coming out in support of all the women athletes who have had the courage to publicly come out during their playing careers. We’re all aware of how hard it is to make a living playing sports as a female, and these women put everything on the line to be true to who they are. They risked the loss of what they had dreamed of and worked for all their lives. They became targets of ridicule and adoration in equal measure. I’m sure they are all aware of the ridicule, but to this day I’m not sure they’re aware of all the girls and women they gave hope to, and all who adored them for it.

I was one of those girls. I was in high school in the early to mid 70’s and women’s lib and feminism was everywhere. And while I latched on to the parts of those movements that spoke to me, something was missing. None of these people were like me, a sports loving, gay girl. I looked at all of the spokespersons for these rallying points and none of them were me. It would be a while until someone actually said the words, but I projected my gayness onto every strong, assertive woman in sport I could follow, but something was missing. I didn’t see myself in these strong accomplished female athletes because they had no girlfriends, or relationships. You never saw their houses or where they hung out. They never went to functions with a woman. They never spoke of anything but their sport in the media. No one ever asked them what their girlfriend thought of the constant travel, the swarms of fans or who took care of their pets when they were on the road.

And then someone came out, publicly, unashamedly, proudly. And that day my life and the life of thousands of girls and women changed. That day the athlete’s life changed, forever. No one really knows how much that public statement cost them, in lost earnings and opportunities, but I guarantee you that they gained something more valuable that day.

And I gained something as well. I gained a voice, a voice that looked like me and acted like me and was me.

So to all those who have come before and found the courage to come out, thank you.

Personally, I think it’s appalling that a male athlete is seen as more important when they come out. Our society still has so far to go when it comes to the issues surrounding gender. The media may not recognize all the women that got there first, but I do, and I appreciate each and every one of you.

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Deegley’s NWSL Ticket GIVEAWAY Results

Deadline has come and gone and here are the results for week 3:

Submissions for FC Kansas City v Seattle Reign:

#bluesKCore, #bluessoKCer, #reigngiveswaytoblue – @SLFGNR8

All a little clever and the ONLY submission for this game, tickets go to @SLFGNR8

Submissions for WNY Flash v Boston Breakers:

#fromnyloveBOS, #JOLIfever, #PrideforBoston, #BOSvNYbestrivals, #twoteams48greatplayers, #wantSahlenhotdog – all submitted by @bwindover2013

@bwindover2013 gets the tickets to WNY v BOS just for being prolific.

Submissions for Chicago Redstars v Portland Thorns FC:

#theotherteamshave20problemsandtheyareallCRSplayers – @jackiebee44

Seeing as this was also the ONLY entry for this game and it’s a little clever, this one gets the tickets.

Submissions for WNY Flash v Sky Blue FC:

None

All recipients can follow me and DM your mailing address, I will either FedEx or mail the tickets depending on game dates. Thank you all for responding.

Clearly, I haven’t figured out the best way to give these tickets away on twitter, if anyone has a suggestion, please leave it in the comments.

Deegley’s NWSL Ticket GIVEAWAY Details

Everything you need to know about the giveaway..

WHO: Anyone over 13 with a twitter account is eligible for the tickets.

WHAT: 2 tickets for FC Kansas City, Chicago Red Stars, and WNY Flash games in week 3.

WHEN: Giveaway runs from 8AM ET 4/23 until 6PM ET 4/24. Recipients will be notified on twitter no later than 7PM ET 4/24.

WHERE: My twitter account: @Deegley

WHY: Because no good ticket should go to waste.

HOW: Between 8AM ET,4/23 and 6PM ET 4/24, eligible tweeters should tweet a hashtag to @Deegley that best describes the game they wish to attend. The hashtag can either be a description of the battle to take place on the field, or an inspiration for their team, or anything else that pertains to the team(s) or game. Have fun and be creative. Make me laugh and you’re halfway there. Be funny and  clever and you’ll have 2 tickets 🙂

If you have any questions please tweet me or better yet, leave me a comment.

So Many Thoughts, So Little Motivation

I have to chip the new kitten. My car A/C needs service. When will the finalized NWSL rosters come out? Did I eat breakfast? How and where do I subscribe for team streams? Why does my neighbor keep taking my parking spot? Jerk! Who designed this knee brace? They need to be in another line of work.

See what I mean..so many thoughts.

I’ve been remiss in my blogging, so look out! I’m not going to play catch-up as much as I’m going to empty out some of this stuff in my brain weighing me down..maybe then I’ll get motivated. I won’t bore you with my kitten, A/C, breakfast, neighbor, or knee brace thoughts, so that leaves NWSL.

NWSL! I truly am excited that the inaugural game is less than a week away. I will be traveling to Overland Park, Kansas on April 13th to watch FC Kansas City do battle with Portland Thorns FC in the first professional game for both teams in the first game of the New! Improved! USSF run! Fully Professional! National Women’s Soccer League!

I know, I know, there are many things we still don’t know about the teams and the league. Like official rosters, all the team uniforms, which teams will have free streams and which will have subscriptions, but you know, that really doesn’t matter to me. The teams will all finalize a roster, none of them will play naked and I will watch whatever is available, at whatever cost. I am a supporter and because I am a supporter I will suck up some of the shortcomings at the beginning to get to the payoff at the end.

The league warned us it would be less about the hype and more about the product on the field and boy have they stuck to their word. I listen to all the “wishes” on Twitter and read the comments on blogs. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have my own wish list of what I’d like to see the league doing. At this point it’s a little futile to dwell on that list, the season is at hand and it’s up to me to do as much as I can to make it a damn successful one. And If I’m joined by all the other people who say that’s what they want too, we’ll have a second season to get more of what we want as fans.

All I ask of my fellow fans is to be reasonable in your criticism and fanatical in your support, NOT the other way around. I can assure you that each team wants to do the best for the players, the team, and the league. The players want to play their best, after all they not only love the game, they’re getting PAID to do this. The coaches and owners want to give you the best product on the field and the best atmosphere in the stands, their survival depends on it. The league wants this to be a sustainable model so we can have a development path for future generations of gold medal winners and World Cup champions. I can also assure you that each team will take a slightly different journey to get there. The great thing about that is every team will be unique, every game day experience will be different and hopefully every fan will find a team, not just a player, they want to support.

So what do you say, let’s become a league wide supporters group. A group that no matter how much we don’t like the uniforms, the websites, the streams, the roster choices, the venues, the commentators, the refs, or the music selections, we support the league. A group that buys as many tickets as they can afford, as much merchandise as is available, as many streams as your eyes can handle. A group that talks up the league to friends, family and strangers. A group that defends the league to detractors, not because the league is always right, but because it is OUR league and we want it to become recognized as the best in the world.

Good Luck to all the players, teams, coaching staffs, support folks, volunteers, sponsors and owners. May this be the first season of many more to come.

O.K. I’ve got to go get out of this cheerleader costume..it doesn’t fit me, but I hope you get what I’m trying to say.

Go  Boston Breakers!